First dance, first kiss, first love.
The fear of the unknown can be both exciting as well as intimidating. The
anxieties that we face growing up help define how we react and learn to similar
situation in the future. These life experiences can be unpleasant and
unsettling. The anxiety we feel is totally normal within reason I will explore
the main causes of teenage anxieties primarily in the situation of attraction
and emotions http://panicdisorder.about.com/od/understandingpanic/a/normprobanxiety.htm
Fear of rejection: From my personal
experience I remember the first girl I had a crush on. This was in grade 6.
Like any typical dance at that time the boys where on one side of the school
gym and the girls on the other admiring from distance I felt the anxiety
settling in. This sensation was totally new to me and I was completely
overwhelmed needless to say my first dance was not as magical as I had hoped,
the pressure from my friends to go ask her to dance was staggering , all I kept
thinking to myself was what if she says no I would be devastated. What
was more devastating was regretting not asking her to dance. I learned from this
situation that the regret is greater than the initial anxiety felt. From then
on I tried to live with as little regret as possible; the unpleasant anxiety
would end up helping me be more courageous in the future.
Fear of the unknown: First date, I
was 16 years old and I was getting ready for my first real date. Not knowing
what to expect and accompanied by the lack of knowledge in these situations. I
didn’t ask my parents for advice I was way too shy to request their advice.
Well the anxiety was defiantly settling in even the day before I think I may
have slept two hours going over and over the possible scenario’s in my head.
Should I hold her hand? What happens if we have nothing to say? The dreaded
acquired silence! Do you kiss on the first date? Obviously with zero dating
experience the evening was mediocre at best, the anxiety was overwhelming and
hindered my ability to toughly enjoy the evening. I realized that learning to
cope with anxiety is very important. Coping with this type of anxiety will only
help you fully enjoy the experience in front of you.
Angst is defiantly a necessary
evil as a youth, our lack of life experience and fear of the unknown help
contribute to the anxiety. Angst is a strong feature in the coming-of-age
processes in my opinion and a very valuable one. If every situation came
natural to us we would not be able to adapt or learn from them. More
importantly without angst the experiences would be far less memorable
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